In a world that is busy and all-consuming ‘life’ can be hard to juggle.
But a silver lining of the current COVID situation is that we all got to spend a bit more time together as a family unit. For some, this was very difficult, for some this was very rewarding. Now as we start to move back to ‘normal’ life again, don’t forget about the kids. Just 20 minutes a day of real one on one ‘fun’ time can have HUGE benefits to building strong and long-lasting relationships. See the article below that has been put out by the well-recognised ‘1-2-3 Magic’ program.
The 1-2-3 Magic program is designed to help parents do two things—to create a calm, effective discipline that helps eliminate or reduce obnoxious behaviors, and to strengthen family relationships.
When it comes to strengthening family relationships, there are two key ways to build a better relationship with your kids (these tend to work with spouses and other family members as well!).
The first is One-on-One Fun. Show me any two people who have fun together frequently, and I’ll show you a good relationship. Shared fun provides the necessary nutrition for a personal relationship. Whether they are young or old, families who have regular fun together tend to like each other. For many families these days, however, this much-needed one-on-one enjoyment gets put on the back burner because of the unfortunate focus on two things: work and whole-family activities.
We consistently hear that doing things together as a family is a way to head off a whole bunch of social challenges for our kids. But the best parent-child bonding time happens during one-on-one interactions. Make the time to play together or hang out. It doesn’t have to be a long time, even 20 minutes here and there throughout the day will make a difference.
The second key way to strengthen your relationships with your kids is sympathetic listening. Your goals with sympathetic listening are to find out how your child is feeling and to check back with them to make sure that you understood what they were saying.
Click here to watch Dr. Phelan talk about what sympathetic listening is, how to do it, and why it’s so important (especially right now).
Sympathetic listening isn’t always easy, particularly if you’re busy or stressed out yourself. In this video, Dr. Phelan talks about five things that will help you be a good sympathetic listener and what you should do if you can’t implement them immediately. https://www.facebook.com/sourcebooks/videos/vb.147920591902934/607852753421686/?type=2&theater